The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family - Wikipedia

The second I started seeing someone one, I would start fantasizing about how I’d get out. Things shifted by the time I hit my late 20s, when, instead of just imagining my exit strategies, I actually started planning and executing on them.

Of course, this was a defense mechanism — a byproduct of commitment phobia — carefully crafted to protect me from heartbreak . I knew that at the first whiff of smoke, I could simply follow the evacuation instructions that I had practiced over and over in my head, and — poof! — crisis averted.

Compounding this clever exit strategy I'd concocted was the fact that I had an intense fear of settling down (yep, women feel that too). I was convinced that I'd be inviting the kind of vulnerability I'd always dreaded into my life — and that the same partner year after year would eventually stagnate my personality. My solution was to keep one high-heeled boot dangling just outside the door at all times.

The second I started seeing someone one, I would start fantasizing about how I’d get out. Things shifted by the time I hit my late 20s, when, instead of just imagining my exit strategies, I actually started planning and executing on them.

Of course, this was a defense mechanism — a byproduct of commitment phobia — carefully crafted to protect me from heartbreak . I knew that at the first whiff of smoke, I could simply follow the evacuation instructions that I had practiced over and over in my head, and — poof! — crisis averted.

Compounding this clever exit strategy I'd concocted was the fact that I had an intense fear of settling down (yep, women feel that too). I was convinced that I'd be inviting the kind of vulnerability I'd always dreaded into my life — and that the same partner year after year would eventually stagnate my personality. My solution was to keep one high-heeled boot dangling just outside the door at all times.

1610s, "action of officially consigning to the custody of the state," from commit + -ment . (Anglo-French had commettement .) Meaning "the committing of oneself, pledge, promise" is attested from 1793; hence, "an obligation, an engagement" (1864).

The second I started seeing someone one, I would start fantasizing about how I’d get out. Things shifted by the time I hit my late 20s, when, instead of just imagining my exit strategies, I actually started planning and executing on them.

Of course, this was a defense mechanism — a byproduct of commitment phobia — carefully crafted to protect me from heartbreak . I knew that at the first whiff of smoke, I could simply follow the evacuation instructions that I had practiced over and over in my head, and — poof! — crisis averted.

Compounding this clever exit strategy I'd concocted was the fact that I had an intense fear of settling down (yep, women feel that too). I was convinced that I'd be inviting the kind of vulnerability I'd always dreaded into my life — and that the same partner year after year would eventually stagnate my personality. My solution was to keep one high-heeled boot dangling just outside the door at all times.

1610s, "action of officially consigning to the custody of the state," from commit + -ment . (Anglo-French had commettement .) Meaning "the committing of oneself, pledge, promise" is attested from 1793; hence, "an obligation, an engagement" (1864).

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The second I started seeing someone one, I would start fantasizing about how I’d get out. Things shifted by the time I hit my late 20s, when, instead of just imagining my exit strategies, I actually started planning and executing on them.

Of course, this was a defense mechanism — a byproduct of commitment phobia — carefully crafted to protect me from heartbreak . I knew that at the first whiff of smoke, I could simply follow the evacuation instructions that I had practiced over and over in my head, and — poof! — crisis averted.

Compounding this clever exit strategy I'd concocted was the fact that I had an intense fear of settling down (yep, women feel that too). I was convinced that I'd be inviting the kind of vulnerability I'd always dreaded into my life — and that the same partner year after year would eventually stagnate my personality. My solution was to keep one high-heeled boot dangling just outside the door at all times.

1610s, "action of officially consigning to the custody of the state," from commit + -ment . (Anglo-French had commettement .) Meaning "the committing of oneself, pledge, promise" is attested from 1793; hence, "an obligation, an engagement" (1864).

Commitment to My Co-worker Cards can be customized. Minimum orders of 500 cards could feature your hospital logo, mission/vision, and your organization colors. Call 800.728.7766 x4 or email [email protected] for pricing and design ideas.


[email protected]
800.728.7766 x4
952.854.1866 fax
Hours: 8:30-5:00 CDT | M-F
We accept purchase orders.

I asked myself this question recently, and realized that it was more difficult to answer than I expected.  Outside of the obvious, such as family, friends, health, well-being, etc., I had to examine my values and behavior a little more deeply.

I realized that I have many goals and aspirations, which I’m often focused on and believe in. But am I truly committed to these endeavors? For certain tasks, it’s easy to see different levels of commitment. I can clearly say I am more focused and involved with many tasks over others. This makes gauging commitment a little tricky.

Can we just be “sort of” committed, or does this constitute a different category and label. Is the current state of our life what we are committed to?

(Definition of “commitment” from the Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary & Thesaurus © Cambridge University Press)

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The second I started seeing someone one, I would start fantasizing about how I’d get out. Things shifted by the time I hit my late 20s, when, instead of just imagining my exit strategies, I actually started planning and executing on them.

Of course, this was a defense mechanism — a byproduct of commitment phobia — carefully crafted to protect me from heartbreak . I knew that at the first whiff of smoke, I could simply follow the evacuation instructions that I had practiced over and over in my head, and — poof! — crisis averted.

Compounding this clever exit strategy I'd concocted was the fact that I had an intense fear of settling down (yep, women feel that too). I was convinced that I'd be inviting the kind of vulnerability I'd always dreaded into my life — and that the same partner year after year would eventually stagnate my personality. My solution was to keep one high-heeled boot dangling just outside the door at all times.

1610s, "action of officially consigning to the custody of the state," from commit + -ment . (Anglo-French had commettement .) Meaning "the committing of oneself, pledge, promise" is attested from 1793; hence, "an obligation, an engagement" (1864).

Commitment to My Co-worker Cards can be customized. Minimum orders of 500 cards could feature your hospital logo, mission/vision, and your organization colors. Call 800.728.7766 x4 or email [email protected] for pricing and design ideas.


[email protected]
800.728.7766 x4
952.854.1866 fax
Hours: 8:30-5:00 CDT | M-F
We accept purchase orders.

I asked myself this question recently, and realized that it was more difficult to answer than I expected.  Outside of the obvious, such as family, friends, health, well-being, etc., I had to examine my values and behavior a little more deeply.

I realized that I have many goals and aspirations, which I’m often focused on and believe in. But am I truly committed to these endeavors? For certain tasks, it’s easy to see different levels of commitment. I can clearly say I am more focused and involved with many tasks over others. This makes gauging commitment a little tricky.

Can we just be “sort of” committed, or does this constitute a different category and label. Is the current state of our life what we are committed to?

 
 
 
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